THE 11 STEPS OF FEELING
BASIC PRECEPT OF "FEELING DISSOLVE" ©
Any thing, person or event
that I think should be different from the way it is, that I want to change
because I am bothered by the way it or she or he is, stimulates a FEELING
in me, a feeling that can be dissolved.
So that we
are better able to evaluate what type of feeling we are having, we can
divide feelings into 3 main
categories. Two of feelings that consume or cost us
energy , one that vitalizes.
The energy consuming feelings
of Love" (LL) an expression of lack of "Self-Love" manifests as
a feeling of not feeling loved-appreciated. Subdivided
into individual expressions of feelings, that moves from an energy
consuming scale of 1 the most, to 7 the least energy consuming.
feelings are: 2) PAIN 4) GUILT 7)
B) “Lack of Influence”
(LI) these feeling are expression of our feeling “lack of control”, the
feeling that we are not in/cannot control situations or people. (From the
weather to politics and everything in between.)
HOPLESSNES 3) FEAR 5) DESIRE/WANTING 6) ANGER
In addition once feelings have been dissolved, we
move into feelings that are vitalizing and energizing, feelings that
demonstrate that we ) these
feeling go up in quality are from 8 to 10 and 11 being a state of
C) “Have Influence” HI
influence, is what is called “doing without doing,” events,
situations and people change something happen simply because we have
changed.) The result is that we feel peaceful and in control, we have
taken action by working on ourselves
HI feelings are: 8) VALOR/courage 9) ACCEPTANCE 10) HARMONY
The highest state of
The State of: 11) UNCONDITIONAL
11 STEPS ARE:
# 1) IDENTIFYING THE EVENT THAT STIMULATES THE
Is there anything that happened today or recently that bothers me,
a person or a situation that I would like different than it is?
# 2) RECOGNIZING THE KIND OF FEELING IT
Is it a feeling of Lack of
Love I don’t feel accepted in some way, or feel hurt. Or is it a
feeling of Lack of
Influence, do I want a situation or person to be different from the
way they are?
# 3) LOCATING THE FEELING. WHERE DO I FEEL
Is it in my body, or outside my
# 4) USING CREATIVE IMAGINATION - WHAT DOES FEELINGS
LOOK OR FEEL LIKE.
- Is the feeling a container with content? A pot or something else?
Is it big or little? Is it dense or transparent? Is it hard or soft,?Is it
thick or thin? Is it heavy or light? Is it dark or light? Does it have a
color? Is it something else? Perhaps it is only a vibration, not an image,
or a smell, or even a geometric form. No matter what you experience focus
on that something.
# 5) ATTEND TO THE
FEELING - keep your attention on the feeling, its
# 6) ASK YOURSELF: "DO I WANT TO HOLD ON TO MY
Your answer would be NO! ( Remember that by materializing this
metaphor (the form) for the feeling we are observing it, acknowledging it,
recognizing that we have it. That is our intent. The purpose of this
exercise is not to get rid of the feeling, even though that is the
outcome. It is that the feeling is able to dissolve because it is being
accepted, observed, attended to.
# 7) USING OUR HANDS AS A HELPING INSTRUMENT TO DISSOLVE THE
FEELING, SWEEP UNTIL THE IMAGE HAS
Using the hands is helpful especially at the beginning when we
first use this method, it is useful for very dense feelings. Try to
experience the quality of the vibration as you pull it our, is it prickly,
sticky, cold, like a wave of hot air, otherwise? If it is too large or
dense, try rubbing your hands together as if you were undoing it. It does
not matter what quality you expedience or even if you perceive any at all,
especially at first. It is interesting that we can be aware that feelings
have a qualities at all.
8) CHECK IF AN EMPTY SPACE HAS BEEN CREATED BY
THE FEELING THAT - FILL THE VOID WITH
Can you fill the void with light? Does the light switch go on? or
whatever your other choices is? a candle? sun light? a flood light,? Does
the space becomes flooded with light? Or do you have a warm feeling in the
area where the feeling used to be? Does it only fill partially with light?
In this case or if it does not receive light at all, you have other
feelings blocking and you need to re- do your process starting with Step #
# 9) RE-EVALUATE - HOW DO I FEEL NOW ABOUT THE
We re-evaluate as we work though a situation, to reach the neutral
state. Once you have truly dissolved the feeling, reached the state of
acceptance about the person or situation, what you experience will depend
on the situation. You may feel more relaxed, confident if it is something
you have to face, a decision you have to make. Or if it is something that
bothered you it may have distanced itself from you, as if it never
happened, become unimportant, or you may gain a new perspective, new
# 10) IF A NEW FEELING COMES UP, REPEAT THE PROCESS.
You already may have done so if the space did not fill with light.
But even if it did sometimes when we review the situation a new feeling
presents itself and we start with Step # 1 again.
# 11) RECOGNIZE SOME OF MY BODY FELT
FEELINGS WHEN I HAVE DISSOLVED THE FEELING? Do
I let out a big sigh? Can I breathe better? Deeper? Do I feel more
relaxed? More peaceful?