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The steps here defined as they are in my forthcoming book "Eleven Steps to Emotional Balance and Clarity of Mind" How to use "Feeling Dissolve"© to reduce stress, increase Emotional Intelligence by mastering the emotions .

THE 11 STEPS OF FEELING DISSOLVE ©

THE BASIC PRECEPT OF "FEELING DISSOLVE" ©

Any thing, person or event that I think should be different from the way it is, that I want to change because I am bothered by the way it or she or he is, stimulates a FEELING in me, a feeling that can be dissolved.

So that we are better able to evaluate what type of feeling we are having, we can divide feelings into 3 main categories. Two of feelings that consume or cost us energy , one that vitalizes.

The energy consuming feelings are:

A) "Lack of Love" (LL) an expression of lack of "Self-Love" manifests as a feeling of not feeling loved-appreciated. Subdivided into individual expressions of feelings, that moves from an energy consuming scale of 1 the most, to 7 the least energy consuming.

LL feelings are:  2) PAIN  4) GUILT  7) ARROGANCE 

B) “Lack of Influence” (LI) these feeling are expression of our feeling “lack of control”, the feeling that we are not in/cannot control situations or people. (From the weather to politics and everything in between.)

LI feelings are: 1) HOPLESSNES  3) FEAR  5) DESIRE/WANTING  6) ANGER  

In addition once feelings have been dissolved, we move into feelings that are vitalizing and energizing, feelings that demonstrate that we  ) these feeling go up in quality are from 8 to 10 and 11 being a state of Unconditional Love

C) “Have Influence” HI   (that influence, is what is called “doing without doing,” events, situations and people change something happen simply because we have changed.) The result is that we feel peaceful and in control, we have taken action by working on ourselves

HI feelings are: 8) VALOR/courage   9) ACCEPTANCE  10) HARMONY

The highest state of being. The State of: 11) UNCONDITIONAL LOVE  

 THE 11 STEPS ARE:

# 1) IDENTIFYING THE EVENT THAT STIMULATES THE FEELING

Is there anything that happened today or recently that bothers me, a person or a situation that I would like different than it is?

# 2) RECOGNIZING THE KIND OF FEELING IT IS?

Is it a feeling of Lack of Love I don’t feel accepted in some way, or feel hurt. Or is it a feeling of Lack of Influence, do I want a situation or person to be different from the way they are?

# 3) LOCATING THE FEELING. WHERE DO I FEEL IT? - Is it in my body, or outside my body?

# 4) USING CREATIVE IMAGINATION - WHAT DOES FEELINGS LOOK OR FEEL LIKE. - Is the feeling a container with content? A pot or something else? Is it big or little? Is it dense or transparent? Is it hard or soft,?Is it thick or thin? Is it heavy or light? Is it dark or light? Does it have a color? Is it something else? Perhaps it is only a vibration, not an image, or a smell, or even a geometric form. No matter what you experience focus on that something.

# 5) ATTEND TO THE FEELING - keep your attention on the feeling, its image'

# 6) ASK YOURSELF: "DO I WANT TO HOLD ON TO MY FEELING?"

Your answer would be NO! ( Remember that by materializing this metaphor (the form) for the feeling we are observing it, acknowledging it, recognizing that we have it. That is our intent. The purpose of this exercise is not to get rid of the feeling, even though that is the outcome. It is that the feeling is able to dissolve because it is being accepted, observed, attended to.

# 7) USING OUR HANDS AS A HELPING INSTRUMENT TO DISSOLVE THE FEELING, SWEEP UNTIL THE IMAGE HAS DISAPPEARED.

Using the hands is helpful especially at the beginning when we first use this method, it is useful for very dense feelings. Try to experience the quality of the vibration as you pull it our, is it prickly, sticky, cold, like a wave of hot air, otherwise? If it is too large or dense, try rubbing your hands together as if you were undoing it. It does not matter what quality you expedience or even if you perceive any at all, especially at first. It is interesting that we can be aware that feelings have a qualities at all.

 8) CHECK IF AN EMPTY SPACE HAS BEEN CREATED BY THE FEELING THAT - FILL THE VOID WITH LIGHT.

Can you fill the void with light? Does the light switch go on? or whatever your other choices is? a candle? sun light? a flood light,? Does the space becomes flooded with light? Or do you have a warm feeling in the area where the feeling used to be? Does it only fill partially with light? In this case or if it does not receive light at all, you have other feelings blocking and you need to re- do your process starting with Step # 1.

# 9) RE-EVALUATE - HOW DO I FEEL NOW ABOUT THE SITUATION?

We re-evaluate as we work though a situation, to reach the neutral state. Once you have truly dissolved the feeling, reached the state of acceptance about the person or situation, what you experience will depend on the situation. You may feel more relaxed, confident if it is something you have to face, a decision you have to make. Or if it is something that bothered you it may have distanced itself from you, as if it never happened, become unimportant, or you may gain a new perspective, new understanding.

# 10) IF A NEW FEELING COMES UP, REPEAT THE PROCESS.

You already may have done so if the space did not fill with light. But even if it did sometimes when we review the situation a new feeling presents itself and we start with Step # 1 again.

# 11) RECOGNIZE SOME OF MY BODY FELT FEELINGS WHEN I HAVE DISSOLVED THE FEELING? Do I let out a big sigh? Can I breathe better? Deeper? Do I feel more relaxed? More peaceful?

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